Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive- and then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who are alive. – Howard Thurman
YES! Absolutely! 100%!!!
Ok. Alright. I’ll come clean. Today I haven’t felt really alive. I feel old and tired. I am going through the motions and struggling through my day. I am stressed out. Despite my positive Dinacharya this morning, I just can’t shake it today. I gotta get this out, I suppose. It’s bubbling to the surface.
Behold the turtle. He only makes progress when he sticks his neck out. – Anonymous
Ok, so stick my neck out is what I’ll do!
Recently, I have been struggling with the fact that I am getting older. I have avoided writing about it because I feel so damn vain saying it. I also feel like maybe if I don’t talk about it, I can pretend it’s not happening. What I have learned about myself, though, is if I avoid things and don’t write about them, they DON’T go away. They swim around in my head ad infinitum.
It’s been upsetting me a lot. I look in the mirror and I feel like I have aged about 10 years in the past few months. (Luckily, I also feel like I have aged in wisdom too.). Going through this process of rebirth, self-discovery, finding my inner Goddess, what-ever-you-want-to-call-it, has been exhausting at times, but I never expected to feel older. I don’t like it. It makes me angry. It makes me sad. But I HAVE to come to terms with it, though, because whether I like it or not, I am getting wrinkles on my face.
It sucks ass.
Suffice it to say that I am fuming at the Universe, and this anger needs to come out. I don’t want to hold in my emotions because it is unhealthy and has never served me well in the past. But I have been feeling soooo good lately and I don’t understand why I have to be slammed with this now. Can ya give me some time to just be at peace with myself?
Apparently not…
(Keep going, Patty. You still have some work to do.)
Here’s a little angry side eye
What makes me even MORE irritated is that I was in the checkout line at EarthFare and happened to notice a magazine cover with Giada DiLaurentiis on it (I am going to call you out on this, Giada. You pissed me off. And let me tell you, it takes A LOT to piss an Aquarius off, so today you get to experience the rare wrath of one. Ok, I’ll be nicer than I want to be.). The skin on her face was airbrushed to the point that it has NO features to it. Flat flesh tone only, with heavily eyelinered eyes, a nose, and a mouth. I say, Giada, I have watched you on The Next Food Network Star in HD and you DON’T look like that. It’s actually quite shocking what the difference is. Night and day. You look like they erased 20 years off you. But standing there, looking at you as I am putting my things on the conveyor belt, it’s like suspended disbelief. I freakin’ know that you are not that picture, yet seeing it makes me think that somehow I am less than because I can’t manage to look perfectly airbrushed everyday. Why do you put these fake images in our face? WHY? I am the one who is real here, but why do I feel sooooo bad about being real?
It just makes me so mad that women are made to feel like getting older is a bad thing. We are constantly bombarded with this message that you need to look young forever. Otherwise you are undesirable. Even though I try my damndest, I can’t make myself look like that image. Epic sucky fail!
I never imagined how much this would bother me. Not until I started to feel and look older. I don’t pay attention to anything mainstream, so apparently these fears got in a long time ago and were buried under the surface. I am not old by any means, yet I am like: OK. What’s going to go next? Am I just trying to hold onto my youth with all the things I am doing? I also have something cool that I am going to do in a few weeks…am I too old to do THAT? I don’t feel that way, but in reality, AM I?
GRRRRRR!!!!!
I have let a lot of things go recently. I have been peeling back the layers that have surrounded me and WHO KNEW this was in there? I sure as hell didn’t. But you know, this all comes down to self-love and self-acceptance. I was talking to my yoga students about this very thing on Tuesday night. We have to love ourselves for who we are and where we are on any given day. All parts. And that’s why I have decided to admit this thing here. Let my insecurities hang out. That’s the only way I can come to a place of acceptance with them.
Me and my Kale. Those two lines across my forehead were not there 6 months ago. Nor were the dark circles or bags under my eyes (can’t really see them in this pic and I’m cool w/ that.).
So telling myself that I am feeling old and tired DOES NOT make me feel alive. Ok Mr. Thurman, I accept your challenge! I’ll go do what makes me feel ALIVE!!
*Singing and dancing to my favorite tunes
*Spending time in Nature
*Teaching Yoga
*Waxing poetic about life with other people
*Writing
*Analyzing things and coming up with a conclusion
*Learning new stuff from other people
*Doing a “kick your ass” yoga class
*Lifting weights among hardcore iron pumpers
When I am doing what makes me come alive, I am at my best. I am poised to create, serve others, and change the world. I AM ME! Screw the wrinkles! I am awesome just the way I am! Even Bruno Mars says so!
You know what? I never even noticed that HE has wrinkles too. And I think he’s SUPER cute! Hmmmm…maybe it’s not that big of a deal.
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